Why It’s Important to Understand Your Dark Side

When you were little, were you afraid of the dark? Most of us were. And I doubt we ever thought to question this fear. We were almost naturally taught to be afraid of the dark, because the dark is full of unknown things that might hurt us.

But what usually happened when you turned the light on? You learned the unknown things were not so scary. And they were not so unknown. They were just part of the environment.

We learned to associate darkness with scary and unknown, and we learned it’s better not to speak with our dark thoughts and emotions. Turning the light on our emotional shadow is a lot more challenging than flicking a physical light switch on. So we avoid it. Superficiality is easier. But this darkness of our soul has a life of its own which thrives, whether or not we choose to acknowledge it. It’s there, and it’s powerful.

Understanding Darkness

This fear of our emotional complexity grew as we grew, and with time became our shadow. It’s a hidden part in us that influences our choices more often than we are aware.

In truth, much effort goes into repressing and hiding it from ourselves and others. It’s our dark side. The parts we are ashamed and afraid to show. But through denial, we fail to see that in the obscurity of darkness also lay our strengths.

For reasons originating in the past, we have decided to negate and hide this dark side without exploring it further. And so in return it keeps us distant from truly expressing ourselves.

In many ways, hiding our shadow can be considered the highest form of betrayal. By concealing this part of us, we are saying we don’t deserve to show our complete selves, thereby betraying ourselves. In return, secrecy, manipulation, and pretending take over large parts of our lives from fear of being ‘exposed’ and rejected for the part of ourself we are hiding.

As mentioned, our shadow can show itself as weakness or strength. Becoming aware of our complete self allows us an opportunity for expressing strength.  Ignoring these qualities, however, will always produce a damaging result.

The more we repress these dark corners of our being, the more we face disorder in our personality. This can manifest as addiction, anxiety, intentionally failed relationships or jobs, or other behaviors that cause destruction to ourselves and others.

To become aware of our shadow is to shed light on our earliest wounds and to give ourselves a chance for healing and transformation. But as long as we choose to close our eyes to this, the wounds will continue to decay while emitting poison into our lives.

To Deepen Our Spirituality, We Must Pass Through the Shadow

Any spiritual work must entail exposure and understanding of our shadow. Solely focusing on finding our light keeps us away from places of shame, guilt, jealousy, greed, competition, lust and aggression. But it is these very emotions that must be worked through first before coming near our lighter sides.

Even certain spiritual practices like meditation can become difficult when we try to ignore our shadow self.  Its repression shows up when we shut our eyes, and we’re left with only our thoughts.

As with all strong emotions, what we don’t want to look at always keeps us contracted and in rejection. Deep down we know these qualities and feelings reside in us, and hiding them leads us to a life of inauthenticity and sometimes incomprehensible self-destructive behavior.

If our shadow is not acknowledged and embraced, the depth of our spiritual and personal growth is limited. Denying to look at the darkness is rejecting ourselves the need to be received in totality by others.

We start to overidentify with the side of ourself acquired through our own perception of reality.  This in turn shapes our personality, the superficial side of us, which the world meets.

Our roles and personality try their best to help us feel worthy and lovable. For some, it is by being intelligent, successful, and powerful while for others it is the opposite. In whichever way our personality tries to control life, it remains just another attempt to be loved for something we know we’re not.

As long as this partial picture of ourselves is kept intact, we create separation. The message is “I don’t want to look and feel certain parts inside me and I prefer to judge others for showing and living what I choose to reject”, hence choosing separation, inside and out. It is a painful cage of continuous isolation.

Embracing The Complete You

The way to our light is through darkness. Whether we want it or not, the dark side in us is very active even though it is concealed and not evident to the outside. But we know it’s there, continuously asking for recognition.

The shadow should be met in a safe and loving environment. Otherwise, it is too afraid that its face will cause devastation and result in further isolation. When it’s safe we can start looking, seeing, and expressing what has been hidden from our awareness.

There are many unpolished diamonds of strength, creativity, and beauty, which we’ve kept limited so that others close don’t feel small, intimidated or scared. Speaking to our shadow is an immense step towards healing and self-love.

Initially, when we embark on this exciting and necessary journey, we may not be sure who we really are. But this is only because we are so used to our masks that expressing our true self is like meeting a familiar stranger. Soon new possibilities, choices and, perceptions appear.

Suddenly we can face the many question marks in our life from a place of strength and authenticity. We strengthen our capacity to be in this world more fully and completely. So, are you ready?

 

Feature image credit: Hannah Arendt Center



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Nov 8th - 15th, 2018 Wales, United Kingdom

(In English)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact: +39 3383704893

For Staffing contact:

 

Full Price: £ 1500 + VAT (20%) = £ 1800

Early Bird Price: £ 1375 + VAT (20%) = £ 1650 before 30 August, 2018

 

Workshop Times:

Starts: 19:30 8th November, 2018

Ends: 17:30 15th November, 2018

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Accommodations:

To be announced (please note that food and accommodation will be an extra cost on top of the workshop price)

 

Workshop Location:

This retreat will be held at Buckland Hall.

Buckland Hall is a magical 4-star country mansion set in the rolling, green hills and spectacular countryside of the Brecon Beacons National Park in the United Kingdom, surrounded by mountains with vistas along the Usk Valley.

 

Nov 8th - 15th, 2018 Wales, United Kingdom

(In English)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact: +39 3383704893

For Staffing contact:

 

Full Price: £ 1500 + VAT (20%) = £ 1800

Early Bird Price: £ 1375 + VAT (20%) = £ 1650 before 30 August, 2018

 

Workshop Times:

Starts: 19:30 8th November, 2018

Ends: 17:30 15th November, 2018

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Accommodations:

To be announced (please note that food and accommodation will be an extra cost on top of the workshop price)

 

Workshop Location:

This retreat will be held at Buckland Hall.

Buckland Hall is a magical 4-star country mansion set in the rolling, green hills and spectacular countryside of the Brecon Beacons National Park in the United Kingdom, surrounded by mountains with vistas along the Usk Valley.

 

Nov 12th - 19th, 2018 Cuernavaca, Mexico

(In English & Spanish)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact: +1 (360) 722-2359‬

For Staffing contact:

 

Full Price: USD $1650

Early Bird Price: USD $1500 until 03 September, 2018

 

Workshop Times:

Starts: 5:00 pm 12th November, 2018

Ends: 4:00 pm 19th November, 2018

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Accommodations:
All accommodations are in triple rooms, and the food is Mexican and vegetarian.

 

Workshop Location:

This retreat will be held at Quinta El Zopilote.

 

Built for the purpose of personal development and spiritual growth, Quinta El Zopilote and its beautiful gardens offer a peaceful retreat in Cuernavaca, Mexico.

 

Quinta El Zopilote is located at 2 hours from Mexico City airport in a very small town near Cuernavaca.

 

 

Nov 12th - 19th, 2018 Cuernavaca, Mexico

(In English & Spanish)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact: +1 (360) 722-2359‬

For Staffing contact:

 

Full Price: USD $1650

Early Bird Price: USD $1500 until 03 September, 2018

 

Workshop Times:

Starts: 5:00 pm 12th November, 2018

Ends: 4:00 pm 19th November, 2018

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Accommodations:
All accommodations are in triple rooms, and the food is Mexican and vegetarian.

 

Workshop Location:

This retreat will be held at Quinta El Zopilote.

 

Built for the purpose of personal development and spiritual growth, Quinta El Zopilote and its beautiful gardens offer a peaceful retreat in Cuernavaca, Mexico.

 

Quinta El Zopilote is located at 2 hours from Mexico City airport in a very small town near Cuernavaca.

 

 

Nov 28th - Dec 5th, 2018 Verona, Italy

(In English)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact:

For Staffing contact:

 

Full Price: €1675 + VAT (22%)

Early Bird Price: €1525 + VAT (22%) before 28 September, 2018

 

Workshop Times:

Starts: 19:30 28th November, 2018

Ends: 17:30 5th December, 2018

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Accommodations:

from dinner on the 28th until lunch on the 5th:

 

Double Room & Bath : € 516

3 Beds & Bath: € 488

4 – 5 Beds & Bath :€ 439

Dormitory in the group room : € 348

 

Workshop Location:

This retreat will be held at Osho Campus.

 

Tucked in the quiet Verona, Italy countryside, Osho Campus offers a meditative and creative space to celebrate one’s inner growth.

 

Nov 28th - Dec 5th, 2018 Verona, Italy

(In English)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact:

For Staffing contact:

 

Full Price: €1675 + VAT (22%)

Early Bird Price: €1525 + VAT (22%) before 28 September, 2018

 

Workshop Times:

Starts: 19:30 28th November, 2018

Ends: 17:30 5th December, 2018

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Accommodations:

from dinner on the 28th until lunch on the 5th:

 

Double Room & Bath : € 516

3 Beds & Bath: € 488

4 – 5 Beds & Bath :€ 439

Dormitory in the group room : € 348

 

Workshop Location:

This retreat will be held at Osho Campus.

 

Tucked in the quiet Verona, Italy countryside, Osho Campus offers a meditative and creative space to celebrate one’s inner growth.

 

Jan 5th - 12th, 2019 Osheanic International, Fortaleza, Brazil

(In English & Portuguese)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact:

For Staffing contact:

 

Full Price: € 1380 paid by bank transference / paid online by credit card €1435

Early Bird Price: € 1280 paid by bank transference / paid online by credit card €1330
before 15 November, 2018

 

Workshop Times:

Starts: 18:00 5th January, 2019

Ends: 17:30 12th January, 2019

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Accommodations:

Prices are in Brazilian Reals (R$)

*Include food and accommodation from 5th January (dinner) to 12th January (lunch)

Accommodation preference available for those who book in advance.

 

Double room = R$ 320 per day (x 7 daily = R$ 2.240)

Triple room = R$ 260 per day (x 7 daily = R$ 1.820)

Quadruple room = R$ 230 per day (x 7 daily = R$ 1.610)

Dormitory (Buddha Hall) = R$ 200 per day (x 7 daily = R$ 1.400)

Tent (limited amount available) = R$ 160 per day (x 7 daily = R$ 1.120)

 

Workshop Location:

This retreat will be held at Osheanic International.

 

One of the most beautiful centers for meditation in Latin America and created for the evolution of consciousness, Osheanic Brazil is filled with coconut and cashew trees, tropical gardens with hiking trails, and located within walking distance to the sea between the paradisaical dunes of Prainha.

 

Jan 5th - 12th, 2019 Osheanic International, Fortaleza, Brazil

(In English & Portuguese)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact:

For Staffing contact:

 

Full Price: € 1380 paid by bank transference / paid online by credit card €1435

Early Bird Price: € 1280 paid by bank transference / paid online by credit card €1330
before 15 November, 2018

 

Workshop Times:

Starts: 18:00 5th January, 2019

Ends: 17:30 12th January, 2019

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Accommodations:

Prices are in Brazilian Reals (R$)

*Include food and accommodation from 5th January (dinner) to 12th January (lunch)

Accommodation preference available for those who book in advance.

 

Double room = R$ 320 per day (x 7 daily = R$ 2.240)

Triple room = R$ 260 per day (x 7 daily = R$ 1.820)

Quadruple room = R$ 230 per day (x 7 daily = R$ 1.610)

Dormitory (Buddha Hall) = R$ 200 per day (x 7 daily = R$ 1.400)

Tent (limited amount available) = R$ 160 per day (x 7 daily = R$ 1.120)

 

Workshop Location:

This retreat will be held at Osheanic International.

 

One of the most beautiful centers for meditation in Latin America and created for the evolution of consciousness, Osheanic Brazil is filled with coconut and cashew trees, tropical gardens with hiking trails, and located within walking distance to the sea between the paradisaical dunes of Prainha.

 

Jan 13th - 20th, 2019 Pune, India

(In English)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact:

For Staffing contact:

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Location:

This retreat will be held at the Osho International Meditation Center.

 

Ranked one of the world’s most blissful meditation centers, this lush contemporary 28-acre campus is a tropical oasis where nature and the 21st Century blend seamlessly, both within and without. With its white marble pathways, elegant black buildings, abundant foliage and Olympic-sized swimming pool, it is the perfect setting to take time out for yourself.

 

Jan 13th - 20th, 2019 Pune, India

(In English)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact:

For Staffing contact:

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Location:

This retreat will be held at the Osho International Meditation Center.

 

Ranked one of the world’s most blissful meditation centers, this lush contemporary 28-acre campus is a tropical oasis where nature and the 21st Century blend seamlessly, both within and without. With its white marble pathways, elegant black buildings, abundant foliage and Olympic-sized swimming pool, it is the perfect setting to take time out for yourself.

 

Mar 9th - 16th, 2019 Gut Helmeringen, Germany

(In German)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact:

For Staffing contact:

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Accommodations:

Einzel-Doppel und Mehrbettzimmer im Seminarhaus Gut Helmeringen verfügbar, Buchung bei Anmeldung im UTA

 

Workshop Location:

Gut Helmeringen bei Ulm;nächste Bahnstation: Lauingen/Donau; www.gut-helmeringen.de

 

Mar 9th - 16th, 2019 Gut Helmeringen, Germany

(In German)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact:

For Staffing contact:

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Accommodations:

Einzel-Doppel und Mehrbettzimmer im Seminarhaus Gut Helmeringen verfügbar, Buchung bei Anmeldung im UTA

 

Workshop Location:

Gut Helmeringen bei Ulm;nächste Bahnstation: Lauingen/Donau; www.gut-helmeringen.de

 

Mar 14th - 21st, 2019
Hunter Valley, Australia
(In English)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact: 0413 009 360

For Staffing contact:

 

Full Price: $4000

Early Bird Price: $3600 before 03 January, 2019

 

Workshop Times:

Starts: 3:00 p.m. 14th March, 2019

Ends: 4:00 p.m. 21st March, 2019

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Accommodations:

Accommodation is comfortable and prices are based on twin share (with someone of the same gender).

We are able to cater for dietary requirements (GF, DF, vegan, etc).

 

Workshop Location:

This retreat will be held at the Hunter Valley Retreat Center.

 

Set on 200 acres of beautiful Australian bushland at the foot of the majestic Watgan Mountains, Hunter Valley Retreat Center combines lovely accommodation with comfort, style, and connection.

 

Transfers from Newcastle Airport or Morisset Railway station are included.

 

Mar 14th - 21st, 2019
Hunter Valley, Australia
(In English)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact: 0413 009 360

For Staffing contact:

 

Full Price: $4000

Early Bird Price: $3600 before 03 January, 2019

 

Workshop Times:

Starts: 3:00 p.m. 14th March, 2019

Ends: 4:00 p.m. 21st March, 2019

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Accommodations:

Accommodation is comfortable and prices are based on twin share (with someone of the same gender).

We are able to cater for dietary requirements (GF, DF, vegan, etc).

 

Workshop Location:

This retreat will be held at the Hunter Valley Retreat Center.

 

Set on 200 acres of beautiful Australian bushland at the foot of the majestic Watgan Mountains, Hunter Valley Retreat Center combines lovely accommodation with comfort, style, and connection.

 

Transfers from Newcastle Airport or Morisset Railway station are included.

 

Mar 20th - 27th, 2019 Verona, Italy

(In English)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact:

For Staffing contact:

 

Full Price: €1675 + VAT (22%)

Early Bird Price: €1525 + VAT (22%) before 28 September, 2018

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Location:

This retreat will be held at Osho Campus.

 

Tucked in the quiet Verona, Italy countryside, Osho Campus offers a meditative and creative space to celebrate one’s inner growth.

 

Mar 20th - 27th, 2019 Verona, Italy

(In English)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact:

For Staffing contact:

 

Full Price: €1675 + VAT (22%)

Early Bird Price: €1525 + VAT (22%) before 28 September, 2018

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Location:

This retreat will be held at Osho Campus.

 

Tucked in the quiet Verona, Italy countryside, Osho Campus offers a meditative and creative space to celebrate one’s inner growth.

 

Apr 6th - 13th, 2019 Loveland, Colorado, USA

(In English)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact:

For Staffing contact:

 

Full Price: $1950

Early Bird Price: $1700 until January 26, 2019

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Accommodations:

Food and accommodation from dinner on the 6th to lunch on the 13th:

Double Room: $833
Triple Room: $742
Dormitory Space: $679

 

Workshop Location:

This retreat will be held at Sunrise Ranch.

 

Located at the foothills of the Rocky Mountains in Loveland, Colorado, Sunrise Ranch is a 350-acre, holistically managed ranch with farm-to-table meals. For generations, people have been coming from all over the world for the renewal available in an atmosphere rich with a sense of home.

Apr 6th - 13th, 2019 Loveland, Colorado, USA

(In English)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact:

For Staffing contact:

 

Full Price: $1950

Early Bird Price: $1700 until January 26, 2019

 

Workshop Type:

This is a residential retreat

 

Workshop Accommodations:

Food and accommodation from dinner on the 6th to lunch on the 13th:

Double Room: $833
Triple Room: $742
Dormitory Space: $679

 

Workshop Location:

This retreat will be held at Sunrise Ranch.

 

Located at the foothills of the Rocky Mountains in Loveland, Colorado, Sunrise Ranch is a 350-acre, holistically managed ranch with farm-to-table meals. For generations, people have been coming from all over the world for the renewal available in an atmosphere rich with a sense of home.

May 9th - 16th, 2019
Taupo, New Zealand

(In English)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact:

For Staffing contact:

 

Workshop Price:

Full Price: $3990

Early Bird Price: $3740 (Until Feb 28, 2019)

 

Workshop Location:

This workshop will be held at Tauhara.

 

The beautiful tranquility of Tauhara, together with its fascinating history, people, and nature, allows for the perfect retreat in Acacia Bay, overlooking the glorious Lake Taupo in the centre of New Zealand’s North Island.
 

May 9th - 16th, 2019
Taupo, New Zealand

(In English)

 

Workshop Title: Path of Love

 

Workshop Description: The Path of Love 7-Day Retreat is a unique, revolutionary, and life transforming meditation and personal growth retreat. It will alter your life in a substantial way.

 

For Info & Bookings Contact:

For Staffing contact:

 

Workshop Price:

Full Price: $3990

Early Bird Price: $3740 (Until Feb 28, 2019)

 

Workshop Location:

This workshop will be held at Tauhara.

 

The beautiful tranquility of Tauhara, together with its fascinating history, people, and nature, allows for the perfect retreat in Acacia Bay, overlooking the glorious Lake Taupo in the centre of New Zealand’s North Island.
 

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